Richard Leider

Inner Kill is not growing. Giving up on yourself.

It’s taking the safe way.
Always covering yourself instead of taking risks.

It’s reacting. Not thinking.

It’s giving up control of your life to whatever or whoever is around you.

Inner Kill is the death of self-respect.

Some symptoms of Inner Kill:
• You avoid decisions.
• You daydream about early retirement.
• You talk a lot about what you’re going to do. But do nothing.
• You lay awake at nights. Sleepwalk by day.
• Unusual irritability becomes the usual.
• It takes two weekly visits to the liquor store, when once used
to be enough.
• You find yourself talking to friends about the same things
week after week.

The Purpose Checkup

After a certain age, many of us accept the necessity of regular physical checkups.
We’re also generally willing to review our financial situation with some regularity.
So if money, medicine, and meaning are all essential to a purposeful life, we might
be wise to take guidance from the financial and medical worlds and adopt the
practice of a regular checkup on that third dimension to ensure that our spirit — our
sense of purpose — remains healthy.

Please read each statement carefully and take a few moments to decide on a
true response for yourself. Then write the number that most nearly reflects that

The answers offer the following range of responses:
1. Definitely disagree.     3. Somewhat agree.
2. Somewhat disagree.   4. Definitely agree.

Having (Outer Life)
__I derive satisfaction from what I have in my life.
__I express my creativity in a number of ways.
__I have found ways to offer my gifts and talents to the world.
__I have a positive vision for my future.
__I feel satisfied with my location.
__My physical energy is vital.
__I feel satisfied with my personal relationships.
__Total Having score

Doing (Inner Life)
__I follow my purpose when making major decisions.
__I feel content when I am alone.
__I focus and think clearly.
__I have the courage to face my adversities.
__I offer compassion to others readily.
__I offer forgiveness to others easily.
__I am growing and developing.
__Total Doing score

Being (Spiritual Life)
__I sense the presence of a Higher Power.
__I have a regular spiritual practice.
__I feel a sense of the sacred when I am in the natural world.
__I feel a sense of gratitude for my life.
__I maintain a balance of saving and savoring the world.
__I invest time in making a difference to others or to the world.
__I know what I want to be remembered for.
__Total Being score

__Total Purpose Checkup score



Having (Outer Life): The dimension of your external experience and activity —
how effectively you relate to the “having” choices in your life.

Doing (Inner Life): The dimension of your internal experience and inner activity —
how effectively you relate to the “doing” choices in your life.

Being (Spiritual Life): The dimension of your invisible experience and spiritual activity — how effectively you relate to the “being” choices in your life.


Your score in each section is one measure of your development in that dimension.
Your total Purpose Checkup score (out of 84) gives a measure of the power of purpose you are experiencing in your life at present.

Use this checkup to check in with yourself yearly, perhaps on your birthday!

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